A person’s integrity is an attribute most would assign tremendous value to. Have you ever asked yourself where it comes from?
One way to explain the cause of a person’s integrity are paradigms, as written in the first chapter “inside-out” of the “7 habits of highly effective people”. The following is a brief summary of Stephan R. Covey’s point of view. Moreover, I let you know what I think of it. Enjoy!
Imagine you want to get somewhere. A map is a great way to find your destination. Now what happens if you got a wrong map.
You can improve on your “behavior” in terms of increasing your effort.
You can improve your “attitude” towards reaching your destination. Be more positive. Maybe being happy to end somewhere you never wanted to go.
In the end, you are lost. Because the map is wrong or not detailed and accurate enough.
We are seeking the most accurate, detailed and ultimate right map to not be lost in life.
Beside using our maps to map reality around us, there are other maps mapping how the reality should be (referred to as “values” in the book).
Since April I have a new job and since that I am trying to build a web interface that is meeting the users' expectations.
But there is a sad story. Until now I did not really asked myself the question -
"Where does the user's expectation come from?" and "What does it take to create a great user experience?" .
This post summarizes my first learnings about user interface design.
Reading all the not finished books on my long weekend got me again to "7 habits of highly effective people". The first pages I ran into a personally relevant question:
How to enable other people?
This may sound trivial but changing the perspective on how you enable is something I wished to do earlier.
Is there a way that your good will is causing problems?
It is hard to believe, but at least I faced multiple situations where enabling was not received as help. Others felt an approach to change or manipulate them.
Change is an outcome of measuring somebody in unrelated dimensions. Like children "against social expectations". How good she or he behaves in comparison to other kids
(first chapter "Inside out - the personality and character ethics" - "7 habits of highly effective people" by Stephen R. Covey) .
Manipulation in my point of view, is not fundamentally different then trying to change somebody.
I have experienced it as the change of a certain situation's outcome by influencing behavior of others.
Although this may not be a general definition;
in the end you measure the change in the dimension of your own personal benefit.
Today I almost finished the book "Why now is the time to crush it! Cash in your passion" by Gary Vaynerchuk.
Gary is one of the entrepreneurs I followed over a year on his youtube channel and one of probably so many young people he has inspired.
I never wanted to be self-employed until seeing his "daily vee". Now I am ultimately aiming to run a business, but far in the future.
The message that resonates the most with me, is patience.
So if you've been patient enough up to this point, enjoy a brief summary of his book.